standards too high? scope too low?

Saturday, March 27, 2010
#oneofmyfollowers replied to one of my tweets with a #aimhigher. he's probably right.

type of guy i go for? almost any guy who shows me interest and isnt terrible to look at. i give too much too soon (not just referring to sex) and i inevitably get my feelings hurt. you would think i'd learn by now but i tend not to catch myself until it's too late. i tell myself that im not going to do this and that and what do i do? this AND that. im thinking that i not only have to change my behavior but i have to change who i behave toward.

being born without patience is a factor yet again. what i need to do is calm myself down and WAIT. if this dude doesnt know how to act, i need to wait for the one who does. instead, i put up with the bullshit as if ive taken some sacred vow of loyalty.

i used to think my standards were too high but at the same time, i see evidence that men who do right exist. problem is, some chick has usually snatched his ass up. no one comes to mind who acts right and is single. if i were able to think of someone, i could 73% guarantee he is not interested in me.

maybe, just maybe my scope and self-esteem is too low. idk.

3 thought(s):

Phyllis Bourne said...

Pick up a copy of "Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov.

Really good advice.

Product Junkie Diva said...

A line from one of my favorite poems, Knock Knock (it's on my favorites list on youtuve) the poet says "walk like a god and your goddess will come to you". Sometimes what we think of ourselves is more obvious to others than we think and people will treat us as they see fit. If we carry ourselves in a certain way and stick to our reasonable standards then the right person will come up to our level - if the individual isn't already there.
Just my two cents.

T said...

In my experience dudes who act right and are single WANT to be single which is the problem (if I don't want him to be single, LOL!)

I think the word too just needs to be removed out of the rhetoric. Your standards are either high or they are low. Can't be too high if you ask me and you don't even need to say too low because why would anything AIM to have low standards.

Maybe take the word "too" out and reevaluate.